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Taking care of our own

So the weekend didn’t go according to the expected plan.  Life is like that.  My cousin rang me on Friday morning and she was crying as life had become a little overwhelming and she wanted to come home.

After she left I kind of found myself reflecting on the things that you take for granted.  The little things that just are, you don’t think about.

It breaks my heart a little that she considers my house home.  It should be her own or her parents or even a town where she grew up.  She has 4 grown or almost grown children and has just moved in with her new partner but the trials and tribulations of teenage girls got too much this week so its off to Aunty Toni’s (that’s what she calls me even though I am younger) to escape them till she can get her ‘balance’ back.

On the other side of that it is rather cool that we have manage to merge to delightfully different families successfully into one large ball of weirdness and other people will drive 6 hours on a Friday to be a part of it .

Our home isn’t pretentious.  We don’t have the best of everything.  We are lucky enough to have great jobs that have afforded us the luxury of living on one of the most desirable streets in New Zealand and we just have to cross the road to go to the beach  (our only view of water is when we put the paddling pool up so don’t get excited, our jobs aren’t that good) BUT our last house had the same feel and it was an entry level home in an ok part of town.

Our home is a little cluttered.  Between my hobbies and Ralph’s, as well as 12 hour work days, you get a bit of that.  We have always got enough beds and enough food.  We have tables large enough to get our tribe around when ever they all come home, and come home they do.

We have 4 children and nobody is ever referred to as step anything.  We are mum, dad.  The children are siblings and they are referred to as the kids. There is no yours or mine, no us or them. Its us, together, as a unit, being a family.

I class that, my friends, as success.



Cross Stitcher, knitter, home cook, HVAC specialist, avid movie and TV watcher, reader and mum. I work full time and I'm not very good at sitting still so I love to try all sorts of crafting things from scrap-booking to ceramic work, but mostly I stitch. Heaven & Earth designs would be my favourite. I have had some major health scares in the past few years that I would not of expected to experience for at least another 20 odd years (born in 1971 so am currently only 45). Due to this I have a bucket list and its full of things right from books I must read to adventures I must achieve before I croak. I am always at the gym making myself stronger and healthier to fight my challenges and achieve my goals. Before the challenges I thought there would always be enough time and was just drifting along. You know how it is. Work, chores, kids, sleep, get up tomorrow and start again. I didn't really have any clear goals. I knew I wanted to travel but that was pretty much it. I was gaining weight steadily and didn't do anything much outside of the house and work. Since the challenges I have managed to get almost front row for both the Eagles and Elton John (expensive but you can't take it with you right), have had a day tour Kayaking around a lake and hiked the Tongariro Crossing. None of these would I even have considered 3 years ago. This is only the beginning :D Life is a gift and its what you make of it. You want it then you best be prepared to go get it :D

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